Do you want to succeed yet doubt your ability to pave a path or walk on an already established road? Can you follow through without shanking out? Oh and did you know this mindset is dangerous because it prevents you from being you?
Double-mindedness sounds very Hollywood, but did you know the Bible warns against being double-minded? In fact, in his New Testament letter, the apostle James uses the term double-minded twice. So what is this thing called double-mindedness, and what are its consequences?
For starters, the Greek word translated “double-minded” is dipsuchos, from dis, meaning “twice,” and psuche, meaning “mind.” It is used to describe someone who is divided in his interests or loyalties, wavering, uncertain, two-faced, half-hearted. Being double-minded is a sure problem that can damage anyone and can manifest itself in several areas of their lives; and surely, whether he smiles or not, no one wants a double-minded employee.
An area of double-mindedness leads a person to be dubious and indecisive in all his ways. Doubt and irresoluteness in our commitments short-circuit our relationship with others. Before asking anyone for anything, or acting on our desire to succeed we should first ask ourselves questions that directly bear on our mind and position. Such as, what do I really want; is my attitude in life in tune with me, myself, and I; are my motives self-centered or do I understand that servant leadership is rewarding and authentically satisfying, regardless of the job position?
Double-mindedness can creep into our attitude. It can steal who “you” are meant to become. We should go beyond just feeling good to actually striving to be good in all we do. A pleasant, satisfied feeling can deceive us into thinking we have accomplished something when we haven't.
Let’s say you asked for the business cards or contact details of some new contacts. The next week, follow up with an email or phone call; if you get voicemail, leave a message (don’t hang up after the third ring). You have to keep the relationship alive; otherwise, you haven’t really networked at all, nor are you following through.
If you discussed a particular topic with your new friend, perhaps you could research some more and send them an interesting article or point out a new blog on the subject.
Be practical: Follow up with a note on their social networking page or a private email. Why not, let the person know you are interested in exchanging ideas on the topic, and offer them some interesting points for discussion? Wouldn’t a friend do that?
Take every thought “captive” because it is critical. You see, our thoughts are the first to be triggered in the chain-reaction of our actions. In other words, our thoughts stir up our emotions; our emotions then influence our choices; and, our choices are what produce our lives. Thus, whatever controls our thinking will ultimately be what controls our lives.
Our minds are not just our thoughts or our reason or our intellect, but a whole conceptual process.
The fact that the battle of our every step really is waged in our minds is pretty incredible. We’re either going to be single-minded, to motivate and direct all our actions; or, double-minded, blocking the true solution of your equation. Which are you? And as always, remember, beauty starts within.